Men are victims too, not just women. Suffering is not only in the hands of one gender. I know it might be wrong to say this in regards to women living in the third world and similar countries, but women in the first world now largely have it easy. So why isn't it right to speak about men's issues? (Yes, I am aware of MRAs. But believe me, they're the male equivalent to radfems - they should just be ignored.)
Oh, and when I decided to update the tags to this, "men's rights" didn't appear in the suggestions bar. Make of that what you will.
- This is because women are seen as the weaker sex, the fragile and less useful. The in-the-kitchen people, while men are seen as the opposite. As for the casualties in general, they're usually killed by other men, because men are taught early on to utilize violence over anything else.
Do I agree with these, or like them? No, but they're true! And as a feminist, I'm fighting to get rid of the negative way society views gender and that would fix this problem. Eradicating gender roles with solve this.
-Women are not taken serious in any part of life, including taken seriously as threats! If women weren't treated like they're incompetent children, they would be taken seriously in situations of being an abuser; feminism is fighting to have women taken seriously and will in-turn solve this problem.
As for men abusing other men, see the above statement.
Because men are viewed as always horny, always wanting sex and the fact that they have to be hard to penetrate a woman makes v-on-p rape difficult to prove, in societies view; this is due to the stigmas of rape, not on misandry.
Here are some examples of stigmas that hurt both genders, even if in different ways.
1. You can't enjoy rape. This isn't true, obviously, because physical pleasure is something you can't control. People act like if it feels good it isn't rape, which hurts men by saying vop rape isn't actually rape because he liked it, and pov rape isn't rape if she's turned on.
2. If you _insert action_, you want it. Be it flirt, dress a certain way or commit certain actions, you're 'asking for it', according to society. This isn't true either of course, but it hurts both genders for obvious reasons. If he's hard, he wants it. If she's dressed like this, or drunk, or flirting, she wants it.
That's only two, but the statement you made is problematic and I want to address that; the rape of women is NOT taken seriously. Until rape is no longer made into a punchline, until victims are not laughed at and mocked by the police they go to report to, until there aren't interrogations by friends and family to make sure it was 'real rape', we live in a rape culture that hurts both men and women EQUALLY.
Raped men are not treated as 'used up' and 'ruined', they're treated like they're weak, and demasculated; they're treated like women, and that is a byproduct of rape culture and misogyny, since being treated like a woman is inherently a bad thing.
- IQ tests were changed years ago, when men weren't doing as well as women on them. They added a section and changed the questions until men did BETTER, instead of making them equal. Right now, all I can think of is that they're catching up-- which is needed, seeing as women have been behind for so many years.
They haven't been allowed to catch up, haven't been socially accepted in certain career fields, have NEVER been president and aren't generally welcomed into high-up political positions.
I believe when women are equal to men in these areas, they will stop helping women move forward and make things equal, academically so that everyone has a chance, instead of only men or only women.
At the moment, I believe they're only helping women catch up to men. Like in a race, everyone slowing down to let the wounded runner catch up.
- This is true, but is also due to misogyny. Women are by default seen as mothers, wives and daughters instead of independent people, the way men are. Solving gender role problems, will also make it so that women aren't seen automatically as 'mother figures', and men will be given fair chances in family courts! This actually something I'm actively fighting for!
Gender roles; another product of misogyny. Being feminine is seen as being 'lesser', being weaker, being more fragile and frail. Because being feminine is considered being lesser, men are expected to better than that; stronger, unbeatable. This is NOT fair to men, but it's also a problem that comes from women being seen as the 'lesser sex'!
If being feminine wasn't seen as something bad, being masculine wouldn't involve being a brick wall that nothing can hurt. Men would be able to show their feelings without being called a 'p*ssy' (a misogynistic word, equating a man to a woman as if that's a bad thing). Men wouldn't be viewed as emasculated, simply for needing help, because being a victim doesn't automatically equate to being a woman, and being a woman doesn't mean anything bad.
Feminism would erase the idea that femininity is bad, and would thereby help men not be forced into the masculine gender role, because being feminine wouldn't be a negative trait for men to be.
Everyone is hurt due to gender portrayals in media. LGBT+ are harmed by their portrayal in media. Do you know what will fix this? Political correctness. It will show people in a more sensitive, correct way, it will not be offensive and would be more careful to not harm people societally.
Most anti-feminists don't believe in being 'PC', I don't know about you personally, but being PC would fix a lot of problems that men and women both have.
I also think it's worth noting that the loud, obnoxious feminists that everyone seems to believe represent us, were never 'elected' to represent us, so to speak. We never gathered and agreed, these loud, rude people are the ones that speak for us. We agree and believe in everything they do, because we are a hive mind.
That's not true, in fact, the feminists that are trying to:
-Help women not be convicted for the same crimes as men
-- Are actually harming women, as well as men, by perpetuating the idea that women are weaker and in need of special treatment, cannot 'handle' punishment, are not serious threats, etc etc.
You know as well as I do how these actions are also harming men, and making equality farther from reach.
-Aborting male fetuses and not female fetuses
--Are not only disgusting, not helping the pro-choice cause, extremely transphobic and sexist, but are also making it seem like feminists actually do hate men. We do not, we are helping men, but helping women first because they've been behind for much longer. They're not helping feminism, as being pro-choice is a feminist cause, and they're making it into something sexist and gross.
They're transphobic, because they're equating genitals to gender before the child is even born and old enough to know whether or not they are trans or cis, and assuming a vagina means it's a girl is transphobic.
-Disrupting MRA meetings
--Making it seem like women are childish and can't handle disagreements, whilst in real life, the meetings could have been handled differently. I'm not opposed to men meeting for men's rights, I am opposed to MRA and Humanist meetings wasting their resources and time that could be HELPING MEN, wasted instead of ranting and whining about feminism.
If I found a group that was for men, but not proven time after time to be anti-women, I would join, but most 'men' groups don't do anything for trans men like myself, so I don't bother.
I'm sorry if this is a bit scattered, I'm very tired.